“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” ― Kahlil Gibran
Here’s the thing. In this life we live, terrible things can happen.
We can be hurt physically, psychologically, spiritually, psychically, and emotionally. Life can be hard. No one escapes without having something lousy happening.
And with each painful experience, we build a story to make sense of it all. All too often, unfortunately, that story can say things like Life is too hard. It’s not safe to love. I am unlovable. I am damaged. I am not worthy.
And with each new event, we add to the story. Bad things are always going to happen to me. Life is always going to be hard. There is no hope.
This story becomes our mantra. It becomes our truth.
But what if there is a different way?
What if we view Suffering as just one aspect of our life? What if Pain is not the be all and the end all, even though it may feel like it at the time? What if it comes and goes, just like everything else, and has no more value or weight than all of the good stuff that happens too?
Pain and Suffering can become familiar. It can become our default state. And moving past it can take more effort than we’re willing to put into it. And believe me, it takes effort. But eventually, hopefully, the pain of moving becomes less than the pain of staying. And we have a choice. We can discover that we don’t have to suffer for our suffering.
Yes, Pain and Suffering creates wounds, and our wounds need to be tended to. We can’t pretend that they don’t exist. We can’t say that we will only focus on the positive. No, our wounds need to be cleaned and bandaged. Healed. And the fact that they leave a scar must be acknowledged. But just because you have a scar, does not mean you become the scar.
And it doesn’t have to be all bad. If we are open to it, our trials can teach us things too, like how to have understanding and compassion for ourselves and others. It can bring with it wisdom and insight that we may never have encountered otherwise.
So it is what it is. I don’t want to minimize it…it is truly terrible what happens to people all over this world. The amount of pain and suffering we inflict on each other can be overwhelming. But through some of the greatest atrocities perpetrated by humanity, we still hear stories of hope. Love. Faith.
And if you are suffering right now, I am truly sorry. It hurts like hell, I know. I wish you peace. I send you love. And I hope that you will find that place inside of you that knows that this pain is not all of you. I hope each day you take a step towards light. A step towards the truth that this too shall pass.