Out of control

So many of us like to have our lives run a certain way. From the smallest thing, like how long we take to get to work, right up to how our most intimate relationships play out. In a million ways, every day, we try to control our lives. We build a house made of rules and expectations. It’s understandable really. Who wants chaos? Who wants to continually face the unknown? Don’t we all just want to be comfortable? And don’t we feel good about ourselves when a plan works out?

But here’s the thing. In a million ways, every day, things don’t go our way. There’s a traffic jam. Loved ones get sick. Partners have ideas of their own on how things should be. Over and over, life seems to throw up roadblocks. And we can be left feeling frustrated, sad, or angry.

The truth is, life is unpredictable. Uncontrollable. It just is. And all of this control is just an illusion.

So what if we dropped it? Now. Really, truly, dropped all of our rules and expectations. Dropped the idea that we have it all figured out. What if we just allowed life to happen, and trust that what is happening to us and around us is just an opportunity to expand our understanding? An opportunity to get to know ourselves better. What if we asked the question “What is this situation teaching me?”

Folks, we are worthy and beautiful and magnificent just as we are. Period. We are here to learn some lessons and spread some love. And wasting time trying to control how it’s all going to play out is just taking away from potential happiness and joy.

I wish you joy. I wish me joy too. So let’s get on with it, shall we?